1. They want you by their side
The courtesy demands that they welcome you and have decent chat with you when you are visiting. But if you’re getting regular invitation for diners and hangouts you are on good path.
If mother of your loved one wants to teach you some new skill or some new dish, and father invites you to a game or a drink, they are comfortable with you and they want you by their side. If you enjoy spending that time with them then you are one lucky family. However, don’t push it too far, so you don’t get sick of each other. Hangout with them once or twice a week and you will maintain your relationship for years. Enjoy your time together because you do have something special in its own way, and that’s rarely seen nowadays.
2. They give you presents
If they always remember your birthdays, if they buy you a present for holidays and if they try to find something you really like, you are doing fine. Everybody can buy the present, but to buy a present that will mean something to you is a really great gesture.
If they are doing this for you, you are lucky girl. This, of course, means that you should from time to time do the same thing. Buy them presents that they will really like, or if you already have kids, which means that they have grandkids, help your kids to make presents for them. Giving your time to make something for somebody is also a big thing. However best thing you can do, is find out what they truly want through your conversations and get them that.
3. You are always invited
If you’re always invited to birthdays of family members, family gatherings and similar occasions, you most certainly became a member of that family who is fully appreciated.
By these gestures they are showing you that they consider you as a part of their family, and that they want you around when it comes to family matters. You should go to the gatherings whenever you can, and also invite them when your family has family gatherings. This way you will show that you appreciate their invitations. You should go even when the occasion is not happy one, to show your support for the family in the rough times as well. Even though you might not enjoy yourself, you will show your support in rough times, and that is greatly appreciated.
4. They speak nicely of you
If you know they speak of you nicely on the occasions when you are not around, then it is most definitely certain they love you. Speaking fondly about somebody who is not present is a sure sign of approval and acceptance.
A lot of people speak nicely about someone while they are present, but it becomes totally different situation when that person is not around. People do this to maintain good relationships even though they don’t like that person. If you know for sure they speak nicely of you when you are not around you have definitely won their hearts and love. And the least you can do is to do the same thing for them, but of course only if you truly mean it.
5. They include you in everything
If you feel involved in their family life, if they share their secrets with you, even talk about future for you and their son, you should feel flattered.
This is a sure sign of you becoming a big part of their life. This is a sign of full acceptance and it is a sign that they see you as part of their life from now on. This is a great honor and you should be aware of that. This does not mean that you should let them run your life, or plan things for two of you, and if you see it going in that direction, you should set some boundaries. Balance is very important, but if they talk about their future with you involved, it is a sign that they really like you.
6. They are on your side
They like you so much and they don’t want loose you, even when they hear you fighting, they take your side. This means that they want you two to succeed and that their acceptance is real.
If they take your side it means they know that their son made a mistake, and that you are trying to do right thing for him and for two of you as a couple. They see that your intentions are true, and that you are devoted to your husband and your family. If they do this, but still sometimes take his side, you should think about their advices, they are doing that because they truly think that you are the one who is mistaking in that specific occasion, and in that case maybe you should admit your mistake.
7. They text you and call you
Mother in law is calling you for no obvious reason, just for a chat, she text you even when it’s not your birthday, she wants to recommend new hair salon or a pedicure.
These are signs that you have an ally. It means that your mother in law sees you as her friend and not just as her daughter in law. If you enjoy her company as well, you should go and try that hair salon or pedicure with her and spend some quality time together. You can find out things about your husband that no one else can tell you about him but her. It does not matter if you don’t have it all that is stated here, if his parents see how much you love and appreciate their son, they should accept, acknowledge and approve you.