School For Parents

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What if your child …

… Bites its nails?

We suggest that you find the cause of this habit to change it once for all. Think about when your child began to bite nails. Did at that time something unusual happened in your family or in a kindergarten / school? When the nail biting occurs the most?

Most children who have this habit do it when they are upset, scared or feel “depressed” or when they have to do some obligations that they do not like. If this is the case with your child, work on its self-confidence and be sure to remove the blockage that triggers this.

For example, if the background of this habit is its resistance to go to bed, change your bedtime rituals. If the nail biting occurs regularly while playing football, talk with your child about whether he/she felt good in training, if they would like to do something different, if something worries them… at the same time while you are searching for the cause, you can work to eliminate this habit. In addition to warning him or her, give your child a chance to do something instead, like giving him/her small tasks so their hands will be busy.

… Is a little stubborn?

Kids at a certain age are inclined to question the limits of parental patience. This means that your child will see this as a game, and no matter how angry you were, child still will not perceived this as something serious.

In this way, questioning your patience and authority, your child learns what it can expect from you, how much you are consistent …

Any of your further explanation of what you have explained to him once, is telling him he was right about your conflicts, and each of your pandering represents the fall of authority. So explain again and again the same thing is not the best solution.

Stand behind your words because when you explain it over and over again you are actually giving a green light to act in this way in the future. Instead, introduce the rule to warn him two or three times for same behavior and give the information about the possible consequences. For example, “If you do not wear a jacket – because it’s cold outside (an explanation of why you insist on this), we will not go out.”

… Is less secure than an older child?

A parent needs to have a single individual approach toward every child in the family. If the younger child lacks confidence, try to dedicate a time just for two of you, and fulfill it with the small rituals to develop a special individual relationship.

Praise the younger child, support him or her, be thrilled when they do something good. Never compare your younger child with older nor insist that it behaves just like them. Point out that every child has its own characteristics, its qualities and its faults, but that it does not affect your love. During the time that you devote to a young child, do not completely ignore older one, it may lead to making it think that you are punishing him or her for something.





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